If you were silent, there is no need to be afraid of words,
Which you could not say so.
Geoffrey Chaucer
... the Lord punishes him,
Who inappropriately, at the wrong time chatting,
When it would be appropriate for him to be silent ...
Geoffrey Chaucer
Speech is slander. Silence is a lie.
Hong Zicheng
We sin with words both when we are silent, but we ought to speak, and when we speak, but we ought to be silent.
Saadi
Silence is golden... unless, of course, meanness.
Absalom Underwater
Silence is golden only when there is something to say.
Boris Krutier
Silence is a sign of consent of those who disagree.
Gennady Malkin
Silence is a sign of consent ... lambs.
Evgeny Kashcheev
It is difficult to remain silent, even more difficult to remain silent.
L. Bushma
Compared to words, sighs are hard to contain.
Srba Pavlovic
The person who knows how to keep silent, although he is right, has great power.
Cato the Elder
The one to whom the tongue is obedient usually keeps quiet.
Jerzy Lec
People would rather agree to slander themselves than to remain silent about themselves.
François de La Rochefoucauld
The desire to speak out is almost always stronger than the desire to learn something.
Dmitry Pisarev
Silence must be heard in its context.
Jerzy Lec
We learn to speak from people, to be silent - from the gods.
Plutarch
Oh, if only you were silent! this would be imputed to you as wisdom.
Job 13:5
You know how not to speak, but you are not able to be silent.
Epicharm
He who cannot speak cannot be silent.
Publilius Sir
Everyone hears your cry; your whisper - only the closest; your silence is only your best friend.
Linda McFarlane
Silence is the adornment of women.
Sophocles
Silence is the best adornment of a woman, alas, almost never used.
Thomas Fuller
Silent women enjoy the reputation of persons who are fluent in the art of conversation.
Magdalena the Pretender
The principle of "silence is golden" was invented by blackmailers.
Whoever does not understand your silence will hardly understand your words.
Elbert Hubbard
In love, we are more concerned about the meaning of silence than the meaning of words.
Mason Cooley
Silence can be the most monstrous lie.
Robert Louis Stevenson
Shut up like that. to hear what you are silent about.
Dominik Opolsky
It's embarrassing to say, but there's nothing to be silent about.
Gennady Malkin
Silence is a continuation of the dispute by other means.
Attributed to Ernesto Che Guevara
Silence is an unbearable remark.
Gilbert Chesterton
The taciturn ones always impress. Hard to believe. that man has nothing to hide but his own nothingness.
Maria Ebner-Eschenbach
He has glimpses of silence that make conversation with him interesting.
Sidney Smith
I know enough to remain silent.
Thomas Fuller
Silence is not only the absence of sound, but also the stillness of the mind.
author unknown
Silence is the style of wisdom.
F. Bacon
Silence is a figure of speech that does not require an answer, short, cold, but terribly harsh.
T. Parker
It is better to remain wisely silent than to speak foolishly.
Publilius Sir
Silence is the wisdom of a fool.
Publilius Sir
Silence is the virtue of fools.
F. Bacon
Silence is the only way for an ignoramus to prove at least that he is not a fool.
P. Decursel
G. Shaw
Silence is one of the great arts of conversation.
W. Gaslitt
Silence is the most perfect expression of contempt.
B. Show
Silence is the most reliable answer to any contradictions dictated by insolence, vulgarity or envy.
I. Zimmerman
Silence is an argument that is almost impossible to refute.
G. Böll
Silence is the only acceptable substitute for brains.
M. Samuel
Silence is an extremely witty response.
G. Chesterton
Silence is more eloquent than words.
T. Carlyle
The woman is adorned with silence.
Homer
Silence holds speeches together, and timeliness holds silence together.
Solon
Be silent or say something better than silence.
Pythagoras of Samos
He who does not know how to be silent is not able to speak.
Seneca Lucius Annaeus (the Younger)
The ability to speak distinguishes people from the animal world; the ability to remain silent distinguishes a person from the world of people.
Grigory Landau
Silence is gold, but sometimes it is silver.
Zbigniew Zemetsky
Silence is gold, for which someone else's silence is bought.
Lech Konopinski
Silence is such an interesting subject that one could talk about it for hours.
Jules Romain
Silence is one of the most difficult arguments to refute.
Henry Wheeler Shaw
I don't like interlocutors who now and then interrupt my reasoning with their silence.
Leszek Kumor
Silence is rarely silent.
Howard W. Newton
He knows how to be silent so interestingly that everyone is waiting for him to finally speak.
Slavian Trotsky
You are better at being silent than you are speaking.
Talmud
How difficult it is to be silent when you are not asked.
Mikhail Genin
Silent is rarely wrong. Only if he speaks.
Vladislav Gzheshchik
And a fool, when silent, may seem wise.
King Solomon - Proverbs 17, 28
First think three times, and then remain silent.
Henri Renier
Their silence is a loud cry.
Cicero
The woman silently suffers from the fact that she has no one to talk to.
Women are sometimes silent, but not when they have nothing to say.
Paul Saude
Women love silent men. They think they are listening.
Sasha Guitry
Don't say anything more.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) says in a hadith narrated from Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with them): “ Let the one who believes in Allah and the Last Day speak good or be silent!” (Imams Bukhari and Muslim).
God created us with two ears so that we would listen more and with one mouth so that we would speak less. Prophet Suleiman (peace be upon him) said: “If speech is considered silver, then silence is gold.” Knowing this wisdom, a person still prefers chatter.
It often happens that we regret what was said. This problem can happen to any of us. And a word spoken without thinking can play a cruel joke on us and turn against us. At that time, a word not spoken in time can play a greater role than an unnecessary one accidentally escaped.
So what can be achieved by silence?
Silence creates many meanings. It can shed light on the essence of the conversation or cover it with a veil of darkness. The correct use of silence is the greatest art, a talent not bestowed on everyone.
No wonder the Favorite of the Almighty (peace and blessings be upon him) spoke little and preferred silence. His silence was contemplation.
Silence can be a confirmation that we are deeply interested in what the other person is saying. The ability to listen to the interlocutor.
It can also show that we have good self-control and will not engage in a conversation that could have negative consequences.
Silence helps us understand the deeper meaning of what is being said. The master of his position is the one who hears and knows how to shut up in time.
Silence keeps us away from sin
Note the fact that people very rarely talk about objects, weather or religion, for example, when they are going to chat. Much of the conversation concerns individuals and their circumstances. We often seek to judge others and ignore what is happening in our own. As the saying goes, we are judges to judge others, and lawyers to judge ourselves.
Allah Almighty said: ...and don't gossip about each other! Would any of you want to eat the meat of your dead brother?! (Because) you are disgusted by it! »(Sura Al-Khujurat, verse 12).
Maintaining such a conversation is not only bad form, but also one of the great sins.
In the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), transmitted by Jabir, it is said: “ You beware of blasphemy. Indeed, the sin of blasphemy is greater than the sin of adultery. "(Ibn Abi ad-Dunya).
It would be best for a person in such situations to tactfully remain silent, showing with a gesture or facial expressions that this topic is not interesting.
Chatterbox is Satan's favorite
People who have nothing to say are always looking for ways to learn how to speak. Rarely do you meet a person who knows how to learn to be silent - more often we simply do not ask this question. Meanwhile, silence can help us avoid many troubles in our lives.
An unrestrained person deceives, boasts, hypocrites, speaks obscene words, argues, extols his Self, scandals, distorts reality, etc.
Numerous troubles come from the language. And it is Satan who induces a person to do this. And the one who is too verbose cannot hold his tongue and often, without hesitation, says whatever he wants.
The Qur'an says (meaning):
﴿ لا خَيْرَ فِي كَثِيرٍ مِنْ نَجْوَاهُمْ إِلا مَنْ أَمَرَ بِصَدَقَةٍ أَوْ مَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ إِصْلاحٍ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ وَمَنْ يَفْعَلْ ذَلِكَ ابْتِغَاءَ مَرْضَاةِ اللَّهِ فَسَوْفَ نُؤْتِيهِ أَجْرًا عَظِيمًا ﴾
« And in most secret conversations of people, conversations and hidden thoughts, there is no good, because evil grows in secret. But if their secret conversations are devoted to good deeds: almsgiving, reconciliation of people among themselves - then this is a good deed. And whoever does it in order to receive the favor of Allah and His mercy, to him Allah - glory to Him Almighty! - gives a great reward in the next life and in the next ». (Meaning. Sura "an-Nisa", ayat 114).
Silence is a barrier against all evil
Every time we criticize or condemn someone, we automatically give our good deeds to the person we are talking about, taking away his sins.
A long silence is the safety of a person from many unnecessary situations in which he can fall.
Silence saves us from arguing and bickering, from swearing and ridicule, from divulging secrets, from false promises, deceit, and much more.
Silence indicates the absence of stupidity
Silence is reasoning, showing respect, freeing thoughts for reflection and remembrance of Allah, as well as saving oneself from unnecessary talk. This is a sign of seriousness and the presence of wisdom. The longer a person remains silent, the more wisdom grows in his heart. Note that the most intelligent people are always silent. The hadith states that " Silence is wisdom. But few people follow it. "(Al-Baykhaki).
And if someone says that silence is not always a sign of intelligence, then let him know that silence is at least a sign of the absence of stupidity!
word danger
The source of all rumors is man. And he, having said just one word, can rise before the Almighty by many degrees, as well as fall, causing the terrible wrath of Allah. Therefore, a person needs to weigh his words.
A man came to the sage and asked:
"Do you know what your friend told me about you?"
“Wait,” the sage stopped him, “sift first what you are going to say through three sieves.
- Three sieves?
- Before you say anything, you need to sift it three times. First, through the sieve of truth. Are you sure what you say is true?
- No. I just heard...
- Very good. So you don't know if it's true or not. Then we sift through the second sieve - the sieve of kindness. Do you want to say something nice about my friend?
- No! Against!
“So,” the sage continued, “you are going to say something bad about him, but you are not even sure that this is true. Let's try the third sieve - the sieve of benefit. Do I really need to hear what you want to say?
- No, it's not necessary.
- So, - concluded the sage, - in what you want to say, there is neither kindness, nor benefit, nor necessity. Why then speak?
1. If you have planned to do something and told about it, the probability of successful completion of affairs decreases. A person without iman in the heart is characterized by envy, self-interest, the evil eye. Think about who you're talking to or just keep quiet.
2. With the onset of the time of the night prayer until the morning - the time of ignorance: the words spoken at this time and the decisions made can be greatly regretted the very next morning. At this time, it is recommended to especially monitor your speech or remain silent. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) strongly recommended to go to bed immediately after the night prayer, without going into conversations.
3. A wonderful practice that allows you to check whether your speech is harmful to yourself is to open your mouth only for thanksgiving. Every time you want to express negativity, claims, criticism, etc., either be silent or reformulate this thought into a positive one - in gratitude.
4. Mindfulness in speech will help to significantly improve the quality of your life. Speak in such a way that both you and those around you benefit from it. At first it is difficult, so you have to learn to be silent - not to express the negative aloud - this is the first step. The second is to see the positive in the negative. The third is to say something positive about it.
I wrote this article, first of all, for myself, and for talkers like me, in order to warn against many mistakes. The above does not imply absolute silence. Being always silent and giving monosyllabic answers can show us as a limited person. On the contrary, you need to talk, communicate with people, but be able to shut up ON TIME.
We draw conclusions, we reflect.
Silence is one of the main virtues of a wise person. As a spiritual practice, silence has existed since ancient times, and in its most extreme form was the lot of hermits and monks.
Silence and Buddhism
Quotes about silence help to understand the essence of this phenomenon more deeply. Ideally, it should not be just physical. Among Buddhist monks, first of all, silence of the spirit is practiced, the consequence of which is their physical reticence. Long and strenuous spiritual practices lead them to this state. In Buddhism, it is believed that unnecessary conversations take away a large number of internal energy of a person, which could be used for self-development.
For example, here is what the modern sage Osho says about silence:
In the silence of an enlightened Buddha there is no noise and no absence of noise. The Buddha is not silent because he forces himself to be silent, his calmness is not the fruit of any effort; he is silent simply because there is no need to say or do anything.
In the Buddhist worldview, silence is one of the main virtues. And it does not mean passivity or laziness. If there is no need for a conversation, it is useful to refrain from unnecessary words, Osho teaches his followers.
Short sayings about silence
Everyone knows the famous quote: "Silence is golden." What other short phrases are there about the importance of silence?
Listen and be quiet. (Lucian)
Silence is a great talent. (F. M. Dostoevsky)
Silence is not to be shouted out. (Rinat Valiullin)
These short phrases succinctly demonstrate the value of silence. Lucian hints discreetly at the value of silence for life experience and learning. After all, only if you shut up and allow another to speak, a person has a chance to hear other people's ideas, to feel their meaning.
The Russian classic F. M. Dostoevsky also considers silence a considerable talent. R. Valiullin emphasizes that silence speaks more eloquently than any words. And a Japanese folk proverb compares silence with a beautiful flower with the help of a picturesque metaphor.
Words by Baltasar Gracian
Not everywhere is a quote about the silence of the Spanish prose writer who wrote:
Silence is the altar of caution.
A silent person will never blather out of stupidity about an important secret or about something that simply his interlocutor should not know. In addition, a person who refrains from verbiage is more attentive to the words of his interlocutor and to the phenomena of the surrounding reality. That is why silence is the real “altar” or the basis for cautious and prudent behavior.
Is silence always a good thing?
But some quotes about silence show that it is not always a virtue. For example, here is what Francis Bacon said about this phenomenon:
Silence is the virtue of fools.
What can silence say?
Quotes about silence show that sometimes it can be very eloquent. For example, Cicero said:
Their silence is a loud cry.
Behind the external silence, a real cry of the soul can be hidden. It is not difficult to recognize him. He may not say a single word about the most important things for a person. However, that doesn't make them any less important to him.
Women's silence
Quotes about the silence of women are of particular interest. Everyone knows the attraction of the weaker sex to gossip and empty talk. What do the sages say about female silence?
The ancient Roman comedian Menander speaks on this subject as follows:
Not the beauty of every woman is gold, but intelligence and silence.
For Menander, beauty does not lie in external attractiveness, but above all in the ability to maintain silence. Even with outstanding beauty, a constantly chatting woman can be a real punishment for others, especially for men. Therefore, in order to become attractive, the fair sex should understand the truth of Menander: beauty is created both through appearance and through the nobility of the soul, expressed in silence. There is also a quote about Homer's silence, which has a similar meaning:
The woman is adorned with silence.
Many of the fair sex would do well to listen to the wise thought of Homer. After all, it is silence that is so desirable for men who deal with born talkers and gossips.
The role of silence
Conversation always breaks the silence - one of the most pleasant phenomena for the human ear. Quotes about silence and silence help to refrain from unnecessary conversations that could disturb the harmony and peace of silence. For example, this is what it says:
Don't speak unless it improves the silence.
Chinese wisdom teaches: before you say anything, you should think about the appropriateness of your words. If the silence does not improve after what has been said, it is better to refrain from them.
The following quote belongs to the Russian symbolist poet B. Pasternak:
Silence is the best I've heard.
I agree with the poet and Paul Claudel - French poet and playwright:
Only silence is more beautiful than music.
Phrases of philosophers
Statuses and quotes about silence help to better understand the meaning of this phenomenon, and the statements of ancient philosophers are especially useful in this regard. For example, Aristotle spoke about silence as follows:
For two years a person learns to speak, and then for the rest of his life he learns to be silent.
Silence is a special art, which is not so easy to learn. This was noticed even by Aristotle. Having overcome the temptation to say something superfluous, a person learns to control himself. And it is not always possible to learn to be silent quickly - for many people it takes almost the whole life, as the philosopher rightly noted.
The right thought was also noticed by another sage of antiquity - Socrates:
If they answered you with silence, this does not mean that they did not answer you.
Sometimes there can be much more meaning in silence than in the flow of speech. And therefore, in each situation, it is necessary to understand what the silence of a person in response means, what words, desires, emotions and feelings really stand behind him.
They speak 3 times less than women. That is, among men there are more of those who, during a conversation, never forget the well-known saying: "Silence is golden", and among women there are many talkers who, when communicating with an interlocutor, do not allow him to insert even half a word.
Meanwhile, be silent much more useful than talking incessantly. If during communication with a person your mouth does not close, you risk not only becoming famous as a talker, but also ruining your relationship. By “cleansing dirty linen in public”, discussing the subtleties of your illness, the financial condition of the family, the bad behavior of your loved ones and children with your mother, girlfriend or work colleague, on a subtle plane you deprive yourself and your loved ones of family protection and open the energy channel connecting you. This disruption of communication is the cause of numerous problems in the lives of your loved ones, it can even lead to a break in relations.
Certainly, be silent, being in the company of people close to us and friends, is also inappropriate. They can ask questions and they need to be answered in order to keep the conversation going. But the questions will not be exhausted, there will be more and more if you fail to shut up in time. No matter how difficult it is, learn to be more silent than to talk a lot. This is very important because silence:
1. Attracts attention. A person who is silent in a noisy company attracts the attention of others. Therefore, if you want your words to be listened to, then during a conversation, always try to avoid discussing frivolous topics and remember that one of the most valuable qualities of a person is the ability to say only what will benefit him. Remember how the teacher behaved at school to appease the naughty students. She used this trick: she simply stood silently, waiting for the children to calm down. And it really helped.
2. Creates the image of an empath. Silently listening to the interlocutor, you give him the opportunity to speak out, to tell what is on his mind. Everyone loves to be listened to, understood and empathized with. That is, they show empathy. And you can earn the image of a sympathetic person only by silence, and not by eloquence. Therefore, people who know how to "control their market" are taken for a kind and caring person. They always have many friends.
3. Improves relationships. When you chat incessantly, your husband cannot concentrate and understand what you want from him. Therefore, contrary to popular belief that for the best mutual understanding, spouses should talk more, sometimes it is much more useful to simply silently look at your husband with a "special" look. And he will understand that it is time for him to take the initiative and hug you! This is especially true in cases where you are dominated not by reason, but by emotions, and all your words are expressed in the form of angry epithets and will not bring anything good later. If the husband sees that instead of proving your case and expressing your claims, be silent, he will definitely appreciate your behavior and do what you want.
4. Showing courtesy. As a rule, silent people are perceived by others as smart, polite and gallant individuals. But they don’t do anything to create such an impression of themselves in others - they just listen carefully, approve the interlocutor with a nod of their head and are silent, and don’t climb with their advice and don’t try to prove their opinion.
If the topic of conversation is really interesting for you, and you want to discuss it with your interlocutor in more depth, do not rush to delve into the controversy and express your opinion. Better just be silent, listen and observe. Listen first to the arguments of all participants. In this way, you will learn a lot more than you will try to win the oratorical discussion by presenting your version. Silence most often indicates a high mind. A silent woman gives the impression of a calm and intelligent person who knows how to behave.
5. Can be eloquent. Sometimes silence expresses our point of view much better than skillful oratory. For example, your friend tells you about her relationship with her spouse, and you do not approve of her actions. No need to prevaricate or, conversely, express everything that you think about her right in her face - just keep silent! Whenever it is inconvenient for you to refuse someone and say “no” directly, it is better not to promise anything, but simply do not answer and be silent. Silence will save you from having to make excuses and tell lies, and the interlocutor will understand without words that his request is inappropriate.
no man- neither talk heart to heart, nor be silent together. What else can you expect from No Man? His work and life are difficult, everything does not turn out the way we would like. At the slightest failure, he is ready to hide in the bushes. With just a hint that it is impossible to do it “right”, he announces: “Great! Do everything yourself! Just don’t come to me later and complain that nothing worked out for you!” And calmly does nothing.
No person is timid and unsure of himself, always worried about something, he has a well-spoken tongue, but he has to be silent, because he has nothing to say to people. Perhaps he thus avoids quarrels, conflicts, mutual insults. Silence seems to be the way out, but the goal is unattainable: if a person does not know how to talk to people, then get along too!
No man's answer is silence and inaction. It is based on the fear of doing wrong.
Your goal is to call him to a conversation.
Schedule several conversation attempts.
Ask open-ended questions.
Lighten up the situation.
Try to guess what he is thinking.
Show perspective.
For fear of crashing the boat, No Man is capable of throwing himself overboard. If you entrust him with a task, he will not do anything, because he doubts that someone needs it. He is sure that nothing will change whether he expresses his opinion or remains silent. No Human will drag out a case, and if pressed upon, he will refuse to do anything at all. He will accuse you of distrust of him and incompetence. Now he has every right to withdraw and do nothing.
No Man tries not to conflict openly, but with difficulty restrains his anger: he breaks pencils, slams boxes. If you ask such a person what happened, he will answer: “Nothing!” Thus, No Man is passive-aggressive.
Try to talk to No Man, clarify his doubts and fears.
1. Impatience towards No Person will lead to the collapse of your relationship. Your annoyance plunges the No Man further into NOTHING. Be patient. Be calm and cool. Take your time. An Angry No Man can piss anyone off. If you have no time to mess with it, your deadlines are tight, then they are simply incorrectly set. Schedule a few conversations with No Person, if the first time doesn't work out, you still have a chance! After all, No Person can go to communication with you to get rid of your persistent attempts to talk.
2. Ask questions that cannot be answered in one word: “What?”, “Who?”, “When?”, “How?”, “What do you think?”, “What are we going to do next?”. Ask a question to No Person in such a way that your behavior (facial expressions, emotional state) calls for an answer. You must look at him intently and expectantly. Repeat the question. To the answer "I don't know!" say: “So come up with something!”, “Guess!”, “And if you knew what it could be?”. Give him the most expectant of all your looks.
3. Lighten the mood. Joke without sarcasm. Absurd speculation about the reason for No Man's silence will elicit a smile and disarm him. Ask grotesque questions. For example, the deadline for submitting a report has passed. Ask No Man, when will he finish the report, in a year, in a month? You may still get an answer that he plans to submit a report in a week.
Offer No Human dialogue options: "I'll ask a question, and you blink once if no, and twice if yes." But joke carefully. If you see that the No Person is starting to lose his temper, apologize, explain that you were aiming for a friendly conversation.
Call No Person for a conversation, use:
What would we do if we had brains?
The sheriff doesn't care about blacks.
I'm with you to the end.
Let me borrow you.
The problem is not that you are silent, but how well you do it.
Are you trying to play around?
And with you, every word is business!
That's what I like - big, lively!
I follow you and I like you.
It's high time you surrendered to the authorities.
If you tell the truth, sooner or later you will be brought to clean water.
Better to wear out than rust!
I know you're scared. But so do I.
You have the ability to say no with your body.
Only the losers need it.
Listen to the voices in your head.
4. If No Person is still silent, try to put yourself in his place and understand the reasons for his silence. Copy the pose and facial expression of No Man and you will understand how he feels right now. Make assumptions: “I don’t know what is happening to you, but it seems to me that ...”, “I can only guess, however ...”. If you're on the right track, No Human is likely to start talking to you. So, having gone a long and difficult way, start a dialogue with No Person.
5. Try to move the conversation from the present to the future. Show the consequences of unbearable silence and inaction: the anger of the boss, conflicts with clients, quarrels with colleagues. “Great, you don’t have to talk to me, but nothing good will come of it if we all shut ourselves in our shells. This will destroy trust in the team, give rise to conflicts and hostility. If No Person speaks but you find it difficult to understand, never interrupt or stop him. He must learn to express his thoughts aloud.
What to do if you yourself are No Person?
If in a difficult situation you become isolated, angry and quit what you started, stop and say an encode phrase to yourself. In an informal dialogue, you can say the encode out loud, this will defuse the situation, help you tune in to the conversation and make your suggestions. For example:
Having a result is also a result!
"I can't" lives on the street "I don't want to".
Avoiding conflict will only make things worse. Don't be the silent victim of your fears. Talk to the participants in the conflict. Or find support in your community. Sometimes just speaking out is enough to find a way to solve a problem.
Learn to talk to people. When in public, try to speak out loud. Talk about your feelings more often. Do it safely without offending others. For example: “When you speak as loudly as you do now, it seems to me that you are yelling at me. In the future, I would like you to speak to me in a calmer tone."
Based on books:
R. Brinkman "The Genius of Communication".
V. Petrovsky, A. Khodorych “Encodes. How to negotiate with anyone about anything.
